You have just finished a triathlon, a marathon, or simply to succeed in running 5 kilometers for the first time. Well done, your goal has been achieved. You find yourself there, sitting on a bench, still breathless, euphoric to have crossed the finish line … But what is the continuation now? You are not going to stop there anyway? An article from the New York Times looked at the issue, notably taking an interest in the work of Katy Milkman, specialist in behavioral sciences at the University of Pennsylvania (United States) and a author of the book How to change.
The first observation is simple: it is normal to be lost. Do not be worried about feeling an intense feeling of descent, says Doctor Emily Balcetis, associate professor in psychology at New York University. In the quest for a sporting objective, there can be a more personal dimension, where one seeks to know each other better and to define ourselves an identity. Once the goal is reached, it is common to feel a deep feeling of loneliness. However, it is important to try to understand what is behind this sadness.
Sometimes the answer is obvious: if you have finished a triathlon, it may be the contact of nature you are missing. Why not register for a new test? You will be able to enjoy the outdoor sport and its benefits again. It may also be that you are missing physical effort, and part of your spleen could pass out if you regain the path of training, without necessarily trying to break a record.
Do not forget to celebrate your exploits
You should also know that your brain is scheduled to search for rewards, adds Dr. Balcetis. Understand: even when you feel in distress during a race, which pushes you to continue your step forward is the certainty of crossing the finish line, with a deep feeling of accomplishment. Once your medal is recovered, you can be a little lost.
To counter this little soft blow, you must not forget to savor and fully celebrate its feat, recommends Docterie Milkman. Do not take the time to celebrate it as it should have a harmful effect on the rest of your performance by resulting in a drop in motivation for the next deadlines you will meet. Taking advantage of this victory could help you find meaning and present yourself again on the starting line a few months later, she says.
Another capital point: take the time to ask yourself what prompted you to train for several months to reach your goal. Being a team? Do you train with friends? So many elements that must feed your reflection and help you better understand what could motivate you again. Finally, plan your next challenge by ensuring that it is suitable for your level. Setting too ambitious goals may alter your motivation and, in the medium term, to make you abandon.
So take the time to savor your successes, do not care about the feeling of descent, and be honest with yourself. With these tips, you should be ready to put together the crampons and take up new challenges.
