In the United States, sexual assault reports on university campuses are increasing according to the Ministry of Justice. Between 2001 and 2017, the American Center for Statistical Data in Education found a 372% increase in forced sexual contacts. All students can be affected, not just across the Atlantic.
In France, according to the Ministry of Higher Education, 9% of men, 24% of women and 33% of trans people, non -binary or Queers say they have undergone at least one attempt at sexual assault, sexual assault, rape attempt or rape, once at university. Specialists, as well as the mother of a victim, delivered their advice to the HuffPost to accompany the children who have undergone this.
Be proactive and create an emergency plan
Many changes take place when young people enter the university: independence, new meetings, even new city. It is therefore particularly important to have specific discussions on the security measures to be considered before this stage, explains Robyn Silverman, specialist in the development of the child and the adolescent. Discuss upstream of the people to contact in an emergency, the nearby hospital, and the resources available at school. “You can also create a list of emergency numbers scheduled for their phone or on a piece of paper”she advises.
Remember that it is not their fault
The cases of aggressions continue to be the subject of many criticisms of the victims, and shame and/or fear can prevent them from manifesting themselves. Robyn Silverman recommends tackling the question of consent as soon as possible, while insisting that it is never their fault. Language is very important. If a child reveals that he has been sexually assaulted, “The reaction of a parent can have a real impact on the restoration of a survivor”says the specialist.
Discuss legal rights
Familiarize yourself with their school policy in terms of harassment and aggression. Also make sure that your children know that they have the right to file a complaint, without forcing their hand. If anyone (school administration, police) attempts to discourage them, they must immediately inform an adult of trust. Felice Duffy, former prosecutor and lawyer, adds that it is always important to keep the evidence: “A rape test must always be carried out”and if a victim thinks he was drugged, “It is important to do a blood test as soon as possible.” The slightest message on social networks can also be used as proof.
Encourage them to consult a therapist
Survivors of an assault can manage trauma differently, but many feel a multitude of effects including anxiety, depression, panic attacks and self -control. In which case, contacting a psychologist is essential, declares Sarah Gundle, psychotherapist who deals with the victims of trauma. If your child did not tell you that he had been attacked but you have a doubt, let him know that he does not need your consent to speak to a therapist.
Although immediate support is essential when survivors begin the healing process, long -term support is not to be overlooked because it is also crucial. “Even if you think he already knows, tell your child that it doesn’t matter when it will take, you are there for him”concludes Cate, mother of a young woman raped on the campus of her university.
